The Right Attitude

I was talking with a friend last night, about how to be able to tell whether you should go ahead with going out with someone or not. I said how you needed to be able to glorify God in a specific way once you were married, and if you didn't think you were going to be able to do it, then don't go ahead, and if you do, then that's really the main thing. (For those of you who are wondering, the bride pictures the Church and the groom pictures Christ. If you aren't going to be a good picture, don't do it.)

She then said how I would make a awesome wife, because I'd do anything that my husband wanted (meaning crazy things like be a missionary to some unreached people group, etc) as long as we had kids along the way.

Now, in some ways, that is very true. I will back my husband, and go anywhere he wants to. For me, that isn't the issue. For me, it's about my attitude.

Sure I would go - but would I go cheerfully? I would cook and clean for him - but would I do it joyfully - even when he leaves his dirty socks on the floor AGAIN? I would do any of the crazy things he thought God wanted him to do (Scripture providing - I'm not talking robbing a bank), but I may complain about him to his face, to our children, and in my heart.

For me that is worse. I've seen that type of men, beaten down by nagging wives who would support them in anything they do but would whine the whole way. Heck, half the men in my family are them! Men need respect, otherwise they won't do even a small proportion of what they could - even if you are willing to do pretty much anything to support them

That's what I need to work on. To not only do the right thing, but to do the right thing with the right attitude.

Ephesians 5:22-23
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.

Ephesians 5:33
However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (emphasis added)